Cause You're My Destiny

The random ramblings of a 19-year-old girl... who happens to be obsessed with K-Pop, cute/soft/fluffy things, and Hello Kitty. Top biases: Sungjong, Zelo, Tao, Chanyeol, Xiumin, Xander, Kevin, Yukwon, Daesung, Hyunseung, Minzy, Amber, and Min. Any pics, gifs, vids, etc. posted are not mine unless stated otherwise. Credits go to respective owners. http://aliceinxanderland.tumblr.com/tagged/i-knit-and-sew
Apr 21 '14
binbons:

these were in my school’s emporium and I couldn’t resist

binbons:

these were in my school’s emporium and I couldn’t resist

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Apr 21 '14

Anonymous asked:

What's your opinion on Eleanor & Park?

elloellenoh:

Ah, I’ve been wondering when I’d get this question. I admit that I’ve not been very vocal about my feelings on this book because as a fellow author, I don’t feel comfortable speaking negatively about another author’s book. But at the same time I have developed a growing angst over this subject and I will try to put it into words for you. When I first heard of the book, it was through friends who thought I’d be interested in the portrayal of a half-Korean boy. Of course I was! I bought it right away for my daughter. It sounded like a perfect teenage love story. I even recommended it to a friend of mine (non-Korean) who loved it. But then another friend of mine asked me if I had any problems with the depiction of Park and his mother and I hurriedly picked it up before my daughter could read it. Here’s the thing, it IS a lovely little teenage love story. But all I could keep thinking was, Damn it! Why did he have to be Korean? Why did this boy, who is so filled with self-loathing and contempt for his heritage, have to be Korean? Why did his mother with her sing songy broken English have to be Korean?

And because of this, I ended up giving this book away to someone I felt would enjoy it better, a non-Korean. Because I didn’t want my daughter to read this and get that same icky feeling I did. That same humiliating sinking feeling you get when you realize you’ve stumbled across an awful stereotype of a Korean and you cringe that this is all that anyone takes away. And why oh why of all books that could possibly have a diverse main character did it have to be this one that hits the NYT list? Why did Rowell have to include the worst racist comment in the world in this book and think it is okay? Because when Eleanor thinks it, she also at least recognized it was racist. I’m sure that’s why she thought it was ok to include the most racist comment against Asians. But I flinched when I read it. I was so angry when I read it. I hated Eleanor after I read it and I never ever forgave her. No, Asians don’t see things smaller because our eyes are smaller. That is racist. It’s an interesting point to make that you can fall in love with a person of a different culture and still be racist. That’s ultimately Eleanor.

But Park and his mother are more problematic. His mother is described as a chinadoll - a slur in itself. And Park just hates the fact that he doesn’t look more white like his brother. He is filled with self loathing to the point where he even says Asian men are not sexy. SAYS WHO?!! There was a period in my life when I was younger where I pushed away my culture and wished I wasn’t Korean. This was in direct correlation with the amount of racism I endured at the time. So I could understand Park, I could relate to him. But then I FOUND myself! I found my respect and love and pride for my culture. And I recognized just how important my Korean heritage was to me. Park never has that moment of self-discovery. And that is the greatest failure of this book. Because Rowell did not take the opportunity to really understand what it means to be multi-cultural. She wrote a character purely from a white person’s view, never thinking about how a minority person growing up in this country truly feels. The anguish of racism and the complexity of living between two different cultures was never explored. Instead, we are left to believe that Park goes through the rest of his life filled with contempt for his mother’s heritage. A person who wished he was white instead of Asian. And I find myself desperately wishing he’d been white too.

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Apr 21 '14

happynervosa:

psychotic-peace:

reverendjohnnymidnite:

lillylouwho:

trigger-incoming:

This website is like a suicide hotline but with text chat instead.  I would appreciate it if you guys helped spread the word.

Guys, seriously. Signal boost. I needed this the other night, and a few weeks ago I was talking with someone who needed it. This is the best freaking thing ever. 

Always.

I am so glad I found this. I hate calling hotlines. this is perfect, everyone must know.

Spread the word

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Apr 21 '14

so now that i have my ticket and my bro says i can stay with him

i have to worry about getting down to flor

plane would be waaaay shorter than bus and only $100-$150 more if i get it at the right time

i hope i get surprisingly big checks next month lol

or maybe some fam will help as an early birthday gift idk

i kind of don’t want to spend two days stuck on and waiting for buses

Apr 21 '14

theraptorwhomurderedlove:

This is your daily reminder that self-indulgence can be a form of self-care.

That ‘because it makes me feel better’ is a completely valid reason to do something.

That if something makes you happy then it is not pointless or a waste of time.

That if doing something makes you feel better then it is not something that is unproductive to do.

And that doing things that make you feel okay is just as important as anything else.

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Apr 21 '14

yunglapras:

stop painting sex as liberation

sex is not a universal want or need

it is not the form of my liberation 

from anything

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Apr 21 '14
the-real-shinji-ikari:

thenimbus:

deansguilt:

my school is literally doing a fundraiser where they play what does the fox say between classes until we raise $1000

Genius torture

My school did this and students tried to start an revolution to overthrow student council because they believed that their methods were unethical and a form of dictatorial torture

the-real-shinji-ikari:

thenimbus:

deansguilt:

my school is literally doing a fundraiser where they play what does the fox say between classes until we raise $1000

Genius torture

My school did this and students tried to start an revolution to overthrow student council because they believed that their methods were unethical and a form of dictatorial torture

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Apr 21 '14

bang-tan:

favourite BTS choreo of 2013

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Apr 21 '14

keyeomi:

{8|100 jinki: Onew's undying love for bicycles}

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Apr 21 '14

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